Deva.
I wanted out of RI culture, so I took a road trip across the country. I met a truck driver with a PhD in Psychology, said he made more money driving trucks than he did using his college degree. I ran into some unfriendlies in New Orleans: thought I could learn something of the Tarot from a gypsy who gave me the high hat and thought we'd share some of our goods with a fellow passer-by who took more than he was worth. The Grand Canyon was bigger than I thought: didn't think I'd be impressed-- I was wrong. Strangers were definitely friendly in California, but an old friend I looked up who lived out there turned out to be less friendly-- than both, others and that I remembered him as being. The hippy bus I jumped on turned out sociable enough, even when it seemed it might be getting rude it was all in the name of fun and jest. When I got to my final destination, I found what I'd been looking for. Friendly, sociable people and interactions. I got off my bus at a grey hound bus terminal where I plannned on meeting my contact. While I waited rolling a drum cigarrette, a girl came up to me, offered me one of her Camels and struck up a conversation with me. She told me a cute story of how she ended up where we were and where she planned on going from there. I'll never forget her-- though I did forget her name.
Then my contact arrived and he told me I could stay with his girlfriend. He told me a good place to hang out and meet people. She told me not to. I listened to my friend and met a great number of people, some became friends in varing degrees, some became downright enemies, while others remained sociably neutral. The difference between here and there is the social experience. Most of my neutral associations in RI were down right decidedly anti-social.
Meeting Deva was weird because there was a girl I wanted to get to know. I introduce myself and she responds recipically, telling me her name and her baby's name, then shutting up. How RI, I thought disappointingly to myself. Within a couple of days, I was passing through the park with some kids I just met and I recognized her from a distance. I shouted out a greeting to her, which I later learned made her feel bad about herself because i remembered her name and she'd forgotten mine. Soon she was seeking me out.